So you have made the decision that you want to pursue counselling and find some healing and hope out of the hurt that you have experienced. If you are like many people, you want to know how much it will cost, and if there might be any help for that cost, you’re your extended health care benefits. Unfortunately, counselling is not a standard health care benefit.
Dr. Salvatore Maddi, a licensed Clinical, Health and Forensic Psychologist, defines resilience as hardiness or the courage to grow from stress. Self-determination and the ability to choose is critical for our mental and emotional health. When tragedy strikes, illness takes a family member, an accident steals health or wholeness; we can feel manipulated by our circumstances and that things are happening around us that are out of our control. This is a horrible feeling.
What does it mean to be transformed? To change in composition or structure. To change in outward form or appearance. To change in character or condition. The desire for change is usually a goal in the counselling process. We want to change the way we communicate, relate or feel towards ourselves or towards others. We want to change our thoughts or behaviours...we want to change or improve our relationships. We look for changes that will benefit our overall well-being.
Look around you. Do you notice people? Notice the stories embedded inside. Slouched shoulders on ferries, catching the eye … avoiding the contact. The odd f-bomb spoken from the table across the cafeteria. People carry stories ... histories being made. Histories matter. People matter. Our stories are a part of us, but you can know another.